Strap-Ons and Strap-On Dildos

A strap-on gives you the freedom to experience penetration exactly the way you want. Whether it’s a classic harness and dildo, a complete strap-on set, a vibrating model, or even one without a harness at all—strap-ons come in a surprisingly wide variety of styles. They’re used for pegging, vaginal and anal penetration, role-playing, and BDSM play, among other things. Whether you’re buying a strap-on for the first time or already know exactly which combination you’re looking for, here you’ll find various types of strap-ons, strap-on dildos, harnesses, and matching accessories.

The terms strap-on, strap on, and strap-on dildo are often used interchangeably in the Netherlands. However, the range is now much broader than just a dildo that you attach to your waist with straps. There are complete strap-on sets, separate harnesses and dildos, strapless models, vibrating versions, hollow strap-on dildos, and systems that let you put together your own combination. This way, you can choose a strap-on that fits your body, your experience level, and what you want to do with it.

What kind of strap-on are you looking for?

Do you already have a general idea of what type of strap-on dildo you’re looking for? Then you don’t need to go through the entire selection. We’ve divided our strap-ons into specific collections so you can go straight to the model that meets your needs:

• Strap-on Sets – complete sets that include a matching harness and dildo.
• Strap-On Harnesses – standalone harnesses and wearing solutions that allow you to pair them with a dildo of your choice.
• Strap-On Dildos – standalone dildos designed for use with a compatible strap-on harness.
• Strap-On Panties – panties and briefs designed to hold a strap-on dildo.
• Hollow Strap-ons – hollow strap-on dildos that can be worn over the penis.
• Strapless Strap-ons – strap-on dildos without a traditional harness, including models with and without vibration.

Still unsure? Then read on. Below, we explain the differences between the various strap-on systems and help you determine which type best suits your plans.

What is a strap-on?

A strap-on is a sex toy that allows you to wear a dildo or other penetrative toy on or around your body. The classic design consists of a strap-on dildo with a harness. The harness is worn around the hips and holds the dildo in place during use. O-rings or other fastening systems are often used for this purpose.

The Dutch term “strap-on dildo” actually describes exactly what you do with it: you wear the dildo in front of your body. In practice, “strap-on dildo” and “strap-on” are often used interchangeably. Sometimes “strap-on” refers to the complete system of harness and dildo, while “strap-on dildo” refers only to the dildo itself, but that distinction isn’t always made.

Moreover, a modern strap-on doesn’t necessarily have to include a harness. There are strapless strap-ons that are used without a traditional strap harness, as well as models worn inside special underwear. Other versions include vibration or are designed for double penetration. As a result, “strap-on” is now primarily a collective term for a versatile group of sex toys that allow you to penetrate while keeping your hands largely free.

What types of strap-ons and strap-on dildos are there?

Anyone looking to buy a strap-on dildo will quickly discover that there are many different systems available. Which design suits you best depends mainly on who is wearing the strap-on, how you want to use it, and how much freedom you want when choosing the dildo.

Complete strap-on sets

Do you want to get started right away without having to hunt down different parts yourself? Then a strap-on set is a practical choice. Such a set consists of a harness and one or more compatible dildos. This way, you know right away that the parts are compatible with each other. Especially for a first strap-on or strap-on dildo, a complete set can be an easy way to get started with strap-on sex.

Individual strap-on harnesses

Do you already have a suitable dildo, or would you rather choose a harness and dildo separately? Then check out our strap-on harnesses. Internationally, these are also known as strap-on harnesses or dildo harnesses. A separate harness gives you more freedom to create your own combination and, depending on the attachment system, can be used with different dildos.

With many traditional harnesses, the dildo is attached using an O-ring. Therefore, pay attention to the diameter of the ring, the diameter of the dildo, and the shape of the base. Some harnesses have a fixed O-ring, while other models use interchangeable rings.

Separate dildos for a strap-on

If you already have the harness, you can browse our collection of Strap-on Dildos to find a suitable separate dildo. This allows you to choose the length, diameter, shape, and material of the penetrating part, among other things.

When choosing a separate dildo for a strap-on harness, always pay attention to the attachment system. The shape and diameter of the base are especially important for harnesses with an O-ring. Not every dildo is automatically suitable as a strap-on dildo, and not every dildo fits into every harness. A sufficiently wide base or flange helps prevent the dildo from being pulled through the O-ring during use.

Strap-on briefs

Do you find a traditional system with multiple straps and buckles less appealing? Then a strap-on brief might be an interesting alternative. This type is worn like a pair of briefs and has a feature that allows a suitable dildo to be attached to the front.

A strap-on brief thus serves the same basic function as a traditional harness but has a different fit and design. For some users, the pant-style model feels more natural and is easier to put on and adjust.

Strapless strap-ons

A strapless strap-on is used without a traditional harness. These models typically have one part that is inserted by the wearer and a second part used to penetrate the receiving partner. They are therefore also called harness-free strap-ons.

The sensation and freedom of movement differ from those of a traditional strap-on dildo with a harness. How securely a strapless model stays in place during use varies depending on the design, body type, pelvic floor strength, and position of use. Some strapless strap-ons also feature built-in vibration.

Vibrating Strap-Ons

Those who want vibration in addition to penetration can opt for a vibrating strap-on. Depending on the design, the vibrations can be directed at the wearer, the receiving partner, or both. There are both vibrating models with a harness and strapless versions with built-in vibration.

Hollow strap-ons and strap-on dildos

A hollow strap-on or hollow strap-on dildo has an opening into which the penis can be inserted. These models are also known as hollow strap-ons or strap-on penis extenders. They can be used, for example, to add extra length or girth, but may also be beneficial when an erection is less firm.

Depending on the model, a hollow dildo is worn with a harness or another fastening system. Be sure to carefully check the inner diameter and internal length of the hollow shaft: just as the dildo must fit the receiving partner, a hollow model must also fit comfortably on the wearer.

Double strap-ons

For those who want to combine multiple forms of penetration, there are double strap-ons. The exact construction varies by model. Some have two penetrating dildos—for example, for simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration—while others are designed so that both the wearer and the receiving partner can be stimulated at the same time. Therefore, always take a close look at the shape and function of the specific product.

How do you choose the right strap-on?

A good strap-on isn’t just about the dildo. Comfort, control, and fit are just as important. If you want to buy a strap-on or strap-on dildo, consider how you plan to use it and the experience of both the wearer and the recipient.

• Type: Do you want a classic harness, a complete set, a strapless model, or, for example, strap-on panties?
• Fit: A well-fitting and adjustable harness helps keep the strap-on dildo securely and comfortably in place against the body.
• Dildo size: Choose a length and diameter that suit the receiving partner’s experience and preferences.
• Material: Strap-on dildos are available in silicone, PVC, and other materials, each with its own characteristics.
• Interchangeability: If you want to be able to use different dildos later, check whether the harness is compatible with interchangeable models.
• Attachment: When using separate parts, always check that the dildo, O-ring, and harness are compatible in terms of size and attachment system.
• Extra stimulation: Some strap-ons feature vibration or a design that simultaneously stimulates the wearer.

Strap-on dildos for beginners

Is this your first time using a strap-on dildo? Then your first strap-on doesn’t have to be complicated at all. A complete, adjustable strap-on set with a modestly sized dildo is often a good place to start. The harness and dildo are already matched, so you don’t have to figure out right away which O-ring or attachment fits which dildo.

It’s better to choose a comfortable and fully adjustable harness rather than focusing solely on appearance. A harness that stays securely in place against your body while you move gives you more control over the direction and depth of penetration.

The same applies to the dildo: bigger isn’t automatically better. A smaller or medium size often provides more control and makes it easier to get used to the movements together. If you want to be able to vary things later, you can also combine a separate harness with different interchangeable strap-on dildos.

Strap-ons for Different Bodies and Couples

A strap-on isn’t limited to a single gender, sexual orientation, or fixed role distribution. Strap-on dildos are used by all kinds of couples and partners—for example, for vaginal or anal penetration, pegging, role-swapping, gender expression, or BDSM play. Of course, you decide entirely for yourselves who wears the strap-on and who is penetrated.

Precisely because there are so many different systems available, you can find a solution that fits your body. Adjustable strap-on harnesses offer a lot of flexibility, while strap-on briefs provide a different wearing experience. A strapless strap-on might be a good option if you prefer to play without a traditional harness.

Pegging with a Strap-On

Pegging is one of the best-known uses of a strap-on. In pegging, one partner is anally penetrated by a partner wearing a strap-on or strap-on dildo. Although the term originally referred to a specific role reversal between a woman and a man, pegging is now more broadly used to describe this form of anal strap-on sex.

For pegging with a strap-on, control is key. A stable harness that fits snugly against the body makes it easier to control movement, pace, and depth of penetration. Especially when you’re trying pegging for the first time, it’s wise to start with a relatively small or medium-sized dildo.

Which strap-on is suitable for pegging?

A good strap-on for pegging doesn’t have to be particularly large or complicated. For beginners, a comfortable, adjustable harness with a dildo that isn’t too thick is often a good starting point. A harness that holds the dildo close to the body generally provides more control than a system where the dildo has a lot of freedom of movement.

If you already have more experience with pegging, you can experiment with different lengths, diameters, and shapes. A harness with interchangeable dildos is useful for this: the same harness can then be combined with various strap-on dildos for pegging, provided the base and the attachment system are compatible.

Pegging for Beginners

When it comes to pegging for beginners, relaxation, communication, and building up slowly are more important than size. Use plenty of suitable lubricant and start slowly. The receiving partner should be given time to get used to the penetration. Agree together on what feels good, and let the person being penetrated clearly indicate when the pace or depth needs to be adjusted.

A smaller strap-on dildo for pegging can make those first experiences easier. As you gain more experience, you can always switch to a larger or differently shaped model.

Build Your Own Strap-On

A major advantage of a modular strap-on system is that you’re not limited to a single dildo. Combine a separate strap-on harness with one of our compatible strap-on dildos, and you can create various combinations. Today, a compact model for pegging; later, a longer dildo for vaginal penetration or a different shape altogether: as long as the attachment system is compatible, you can keep using the same harness.

Be sure to check the size of the O-ring and the shape of the dildo’s base. Some harnesses come with multiple O-rings or offer interchangeable rings in different diameters. This increases the number of dildos you can use with the same harness.

Would you rather not figure out which parts fit together yourself? Then a complete strap-on set is the simpler solution.

Cleaning and Maintaining a Strap-On

How you clean a strap-on or strap-on dildo depends on the materials used. You can usually clean a separate dildo on its own according to the material’s care instructions. Use a suitable toy cleaner or water and mild soap if the manufacturer permits it.

For harnesses, the material is the determining factor. Fabric, faux leather, leather, and plastic each require different care. For example, a leather strap-on harness should not be treated the same way as a washable fabric harness. Therefore, always follow the cleaning and maintenance instructions for the specific product.

If you use a strap-on dildo for anal penetration or pegging, pay extra attention to hygiene. Clean the toy thoroughly before and after use, and do not switch a dildo from anal to vaginal use without cleaning it first.

Buying a Strap-On or Strap-On Dildo

If you want to buy a strap-on or strap-on dildo, be sure to consider the combination of comfort, control, and the type of penetration you’re looking for. A complete strap-on set is convenient if you want to purchase everything at once, while a separate harness with interchangeable dildos offers maximum flexibility.

If you prefer a panty style, check out the strap-on panties. You can play without a traditional harness using a strapless strap-on, while a hollow strap-on is specifically designed to be worn over the penis.

The intended use can also help guide your choice. For example, if you’re looking for a strap-on for pegging, control and a suitable dildo may be more important than all sorts of extra features. If, on the other hand, you want both partners to experience extra stimulation, a vibrating or double-ended model might be more appealing.

Browse our selection of strap-ons and strap-on dildos and discover which system best suits your style of play. From a simple strap-on dildo for beginners to elaborate harnesses, interchangeable dildos, and unique strap-on systems: with the right combination, you decide how you want to give and experience penetration.

Frequently Asked Questions About Strap-Ons and Strap-On Dildos

What’s the difference between a strap-on and a strap-on dildo?

The terms “strap-on” and “strap-on dildo” are often used interchangeably in the Netherlands. “Strap-on dildo” can specifically refer to the dildo worn on the body, while “strap-on” is often used to describe the entire system. In practice, this distinction isn’t always made.

Which strap-on dildo is suitable for pegging?

For pegging, a combination of comfort and control is especially important. Beginners are best off starting with a dildo that isn’t too large and a harness that stays securely in place against the body. With an interchangeable system, you can easily try other sizes later on.

Can any dildo be used in a strap-on harness?

No. For a harness with an O-ring, the dildo must have a suitable base and a diameter that fits the O-ring. Check out our dildos for strap-on harnesses if you’re specifically looking for a separate dildo, and always make sure the dimensions match your harness.

Do you always need a harness for a strap-on?

No. In addition to traditional strap-on dildos with a harness, there are strapless strap-ons that are used without a classic strap harness. There are also strap-on briefs in which a dildo is worn.

Which strap-on is best for beginners?

An adjustable complete strap-on set with a dildo that isn’t too large is often a good first choice. That way, you don’t have to mix and match separate parts and can first figure out which fit, length, and thickness you both prefer.

Can you use different dildos with the same harness?

This is possible with many strap-on harnesses. Models with interchangeable O-rings, in particular, offer this flexibility. Always check, however, that the base and diameter of the dildo are compatible with the harness. Check out our separate strap-on harnesses and strap-on-compatible dildos.

What does pegging mean?

Pegging is anal penetration in which the penetrating partner wears a strap-on or strap-on dildo. A well-fitting harness, a suitable dildo, and plenty of lube make it easier to build up to penetration in a controlled and comfortable way.

Also check out the full selection of all dildos or read more about this form of strap-on sex in our blog post on what pegging is.