Chastity

Chastity play is one of the most psychologically intense forms of BDSM. By controlling access to sexual pleasure—or denying it entirely—you build a tension that intensifies everything that follows. The submissive wears a chastity cage or chastity belt, while the dominant holds the key. Simple in concept, profound in effect. In this collection, you’ll find chastity cages, chastity belts, and accessories for men and women.

What is a chastity cage?

A chastity cage—also known as a penis cage—is a device worn around the penis that physically prevents erections and masturbation. The cage consists of a ring worn behind the scrotum and a cylinder that encloses the penis, connected by a lock. The wearer can urinate but cannot masturbate. The dominant partner holds the key.

Chastity is not just a physical tool—the psychological dimension is just as powerful. The awareness of the cage, every movement that reminds you of it, the waiting for permission: this builds a tension that some couples let continue for days or weeks.

Buying a chastity cage — plastic or metal?

Plastic chastity cages are lighter, more comfortable for long-term wear, and invisible under clothing. They are less detectable by metal detectors and more comfortable in varying temperatures. Ideal if you’re just starting out with chastity or if you want to wear the cage daily.

Metal chastity cages are heavier, feel cooler, and provide a more intense presence. The weight is constantly felt—a permanent reminder of control. Metal cages are harder to bypass and have a more professional look. Choose metal if you want to maximize the intensity of the chastity experience.

Sizing — the most important factor with a chastity cage

An ill-fitting cage is painful or ineffective. Measure carefully before you buy:

Ring size: measure the circumference of the penis and scrotum together when flaccid. The ring must be tight enough not to slip off but loose enough not to restrict blood circulation. Two fingers’ width is too much; no space is too little. Cylinder length: measure the length of the penis when fully flaccid. The sleeve should be slightly shorter than the flaccid penis—this prevents the penis from fully filling the sleeve and allows for a semi-erect state. Sleeve diameter: should comfortably encase the penis without being too tight. Start with a larger size if you’re new to this—you’ll quickly learn which size fits best.

Chastity belts for women

Chastity belts for women cover the pubic area and make genital contact physically impossible. They are worn like underwear with metal or plastic elements that block access. Chastity for women is less common than for men but is gaining interest—the dynamics of control and surrender work for every gender.

Chastity accessories

Chastity accessories include spare locks, extra rings in various sizes, PA pins for those with a Prince Albert piercing, and ice locks—locks that you freeze, requiring the wearer to wait until the ice has melted before using the key. The latter is a popular option for solo chastity, where the wearer wishes to lock themselves up temporarily without direct supervision from a partner.

Chastity in a relationship vs. solo

Chastity works in two contexts. In a D/s relationship, the dominant holds the key—which reinforces the power dynamic and makes chastity a constantly present element of the dynamic. Solo chastity, where someone locks themselves up (using an ice lock or by giving the key to a trusted third party), is used for self-control, focus, or simply to experience the sensation without a partner.

Frequently Asked Questions About Chastity

How long can you wear a chastity cage?

Start with a few hours and build up. Most people can comfortably wear a cage for a day to a week if the fit is right and they maintain daily hygiene. Long-term wear requires experience, the right fit, and daily cleaning. Always listen to your body—pain or skin irritation is a sign to stop.

Is wearing a chastity cage safe?

Yes, provided the size is correct and you maintain daily hygiene. Check daily for skin irritation, ensure blood circulation is not impeded, and clean the cage regularly. If pain or skin issues persist: remove the cage.

What is the difference between a penis cage and a chastity cage?

Same product, different names. “Penis cage” is a descriptive term; “chastity cage” emphasizes the purpose—preserving chastity. “Chastity cage” is the English term you’ll also encounter in Dutch search queries.

What is a chastity belt?

A chastity belt covers the entire pubic area and makes genital contact impossible. Available for men and women. Covers more than a cage and is less visible under clothing.

Read more about chastity

• A brief guide to chastity cages
• 7 tips for your first chastity cage
• How do you get used to a chastity cage?
• What is a chastity cage and how exactly does it work?
• Will my penis shrink from wearing a chastity cage?